He Could Be You~
Mr. DWanya Hickerson is a victim of sexual fraud, rape, emotional and mental abuse, which is dismissed and minimized in the court of law. TRS Traumatic Rape Syndrome is the result. The consequence is this act resulted in Mr. Hickersons mental incapacitation which lead to a death and ultimately Mr. Hickersons incarceration. *Sexual Battery, False Pretense, Fraudulent use of Identity, False Personation, Fraud by Other Means of Communication (dating site via internet). Mr. Hickerson has to live with the fact that he was deceived and had sex with a man, which was not his choice. Had Mr. Hickerson known the individual was born a man, he would have declined any sexual engagement because he was seeking a relationship with a woman (biological). That deception had taken away Mr. Hickerson's right to consent much like every other form of non-violent rape. This falls under the category of Sexual Battery. Mr. Hickerson was under the pretense that he was engaging in sex with a biological born woman, not a trans woman. Mr. Hickerson has to live with the fact that he also had taken the life of someone in a moment of diminished mental capacity, or shock, of being told he had committed a homosexual act, which was not his choice because of being deceived. Mr. Hickerson has expressed to me on one occasion via letter of his desire to have a wife and start a family, someone to love and compliment the man he was training to become while serving his country. There is a great chance the transgender individual may have heard that same statement or something similar from Mr. Hickerson and for personal gain had taken advantage of Mr. Hickersons vulnerability in his search for love. Mr. Hickerson has expressed on another occasion via letter that due to his current circumstances that he has thought about committing suicide. Often times, men who are emasculated by rape by fraud attempt suicide because of embarrassment and their moral breakdown of being deceived into a homosexual act. The times Mr. Hickerson and I have communicated beforehand, he was not in the least bit suicidal. He was very open and honest about whom he is, as well as career oriented. Suicide would not have crossed his mind had he not been placed in an unwarranted position (entrapment by fraud and incarceration). This individual did not make Mr. Hickerson knowledgeable and informed about who he was biologically, therefore Mr. Hickerson had not consented to having sex with a man. Consent is not merely 'agreement.' It's 'freely given, knowledgeable and informed agreement.' He did not freely disclose to Mr. Hickerson his true gender identity until after the sex act which constituted a predatory act- rape by fraud. Hence, the taunting emission of his biological gender, after the act. In this case the transgender individual was a non-violent sexual predator that vitiated Mr. Hickersons consent to engage in homosexual activity albeit violence was not present; this does not negate rape by fraud.
Who He Is To Us~
D'Wanya is the 2nd youngest of his 3 brothers. D'Wanya has always had a very strong connection to his brothers. He is the family peacekeeper. I can remember when Dewing and Dominique his older brothers would get into huge arguments; it was D'Wanya who would call them to peace by offering additional game time or something to bribe them into forgetting why they argued in the first place. D’Wanya and Daniel are 4 years apart. Their bond is like no other. He is a doting big brother who encourages Daniel to be the best he can be. He has always set an example for all of his brothers.
When he decided to join the Navy after completing 2 years of college; I was a bit apprehensive. It was going to be his first time away from home and I didn’t want him to go. His dad and his brothers were excited and I acquiesced and quickly got on board so as not to deter his career path. After boot camp he was so excited to take on his post- as diesel mechanic and learn about his new job in the US Navy. It was later after completing that training that D’Wanya was tested and offered a promotion to another field- Meteorology. D’Wanya has always been our go-to math and science guy and I knew this new career path was going to be a great choice. He got our blessing and left Chicago for Mississippi to train at Keesler Air Force Base. During his time there D’Wanya was a model sailor and student. His commanding officer told me that he was a ‘pleasure’ to have on base. I remember Dominique and I driving to Biloxi to pick him up for a weekend home. There stood my 6’3” young man who had developed abs and was just as handsome as ever. We were all so proud of him. His aunts, uncles and cousins came by to see him; I remember him saying, “Mom I’m going to put on my uniform so they can see me in it.” I just remember everyone hugging and being so very proud of the man our quirky, clumsy at times, Disney song singing, old school hip hop loving son had become.
These are the memories implanted in my mind and heart. Not just mine, but his many friends and family that love and adore him. D’Wanya has always been a role model. D’Wanya has always been well grounded. D’Wanya has always achieved. D’Wanya has always shown love to everyone. This is my son and those are some of his defining qualities that will continue to shine through. -
I met D’Wanya in the French Quarters July 11, 2016. His vibe, energy, chi or whatever you choose to call it was dope! I mean really good vibes! I knew he was going to be a cool dude! We made contact two days later and have been in contact ever since. D’Wanya is extremely polite. Not once has he ever made me feel uncomfortable about having any type of dealings with him. There wasn’t ever pressure on his end and still isn’t, even in this jacked up situation. He has always been about his family, friends and work, all very integral aspects of his life. In fact, since meeting him he had hit me up every day when he was going to work as well as when he finished his shift. Our convo’s were always light hearted and hilarious. In the midst of this travesty of a situation, our relationship has deepened and I am thankful that it has. Even from behind the cage, he still finds ways to make me smile and laugh and I appreciate him for that!
I want to leave everyone who reads this with a Buddhist value: “Like a lotus flower that grows out of the mud and blossoms above the muddy water surface, we can rise above our defilement and sufferings.” - Buddha.net